New Year’s Resolutions are hard. I get it. If you’re still struggling to find a meaningful one, don’t worry! You can have one of mine.
My main goal for 2023 is to live intentionally. And now that you’re taking one of my resolutions, yours is too! The three resolutions below serve as reminders for this larger goal.
Bonus Goodies: Each resolution includes a few life tips to keep you on track, courtesy of The New York Times article “The Greatest Life Hacks in the World (for Now)”
Enjoy!
The Only 3 New Years Resolutions You Need in 2023
1 | ๐ฆ๐๐ฒ๐ฝ ๐ข๐๐๐๐ถ๐ฑ๐ฒ ๐ผ๐ณ ๐ ๐ ๐๐ผ๐บ๐ณ๐ผ๐ฟ๐ ๐ญ๐ผ๐ป๐ฒ
My comfort zone is of course different from yours. For me, this year, getting out of my comfort zone means not overthinking or asking for permission to do the things that I know I want to do.
A few questions to ask yourself:
- What does getting out of my comfort zone look like?
- What’s one thing I can do this week to help me get there?
Here are a few tips to get you out of your comfort zone:
- Purchase a tourist guidebook to your hometown. Youโll learn a lot playing tourist once a year.
- If youโre traveling in a place youโve never been before, listen to an album youโve never heard before. Forever after that music will remind you of that place.
- That thing that made you weird as a kid could make you great as an adult.
- Build identity capital. In your 20s do three fascinating things that job interviewers and dinner companions will want to ask you about for the rest of your life.
- Being able to listen well is a superpower. While listening to someone you love keep asking them โIs there more?โ, until there is no more.
2 | ๐ฆ๐ฒ๐ ๐๐ฒ๐๐๐ฒ๐ฟ ๐๐ผ๐๐ป๐ฑ๐ฎ๐ฟ๐ถ๐ฒ๐
Setting boundaries will always be a goal of mine, and it should be one for you too. Setting boundaries allows you to focus on your goals and establish a positive lifestyle. When you have no boundaries, you leave room for outside forces to control your life.
A few questions to ask yourself:
- What or who do I need to stop allowing in your life?
- What boundaries can I put in place today?
Here are some things to consider when setting your boundaries:
- Itโs not an apology if it comes with an excuse. It is not a compliment if it comes with a request.
- If youโre disturbed or confused by something somebody did, always pick up the phone.
- When you get invited to something in the future, ask yourself, Would I do this tomorrow?
- Make the day; donโt let the day make you. Make sure you are setting your schedule, not just responding to invitations from others.
Related Read: Check out these gratitude questions to keep you grounded.
3 | ๐๐ฒ๐๐ฒ๐น ๐จ๐ฝ ๐ถ๐ป ๐ ๐ ๐๐ฎ๐ฟ๐ฒ๐ฒ๐ฟ
I’ll always go hard for my career. But instead of looking up the ladder, I’m trying to plan my escape plan. What does that mean? I’m trying to figure out how to use what I’ve learned to stop working for people and start working on what I want to work on. That’s true freedom and that’s how you establish a legacy!
A few questions to ask yourself:
- Where am I now in my career?
- Where do I want to be in my career?
- What does leveling up look like for me?
Here are a few nuggets of wisdom to help on your career journey:
- Job interviews are not really about you. They are about the employerโs needs and how you can fill them.
- If youโre giving a speech, be vulnerable. Fall on the audience members and let them catch you. They will.
- When youโre beginning a writing project, give yourself permission to write badly. You canโt fix it until itโs down on paper.
- Donโt try to figure out what your life is about. Itโs too big a question. Just figure out what the next three years are about.
- Always demand a deadline. A deadline weeds out the extraneous and the ordinary. It prevents you from trying to make it perfect, so you have to make it different. Different is better.
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Sources: The New York Times; Kevin Kelly